Those two are free and always will be. Here is everything else, and what each thing is for.
Self-help material. The Dads Standard is not a law firm and does not
give legal advice. Every plan is pre-written and the same for every
buyer — nobody edits one for your situation, and nobody here has read your order. Each one
leaves a small number of decisions marked for you to confirm — ages, counts and
thresholds — so it is a starting point rather than a finished filing.
The plans are not written for any one state. Family law is state law: check
each provision against your own state’s rules, and have a licensed family-law attorney
there read the document before you sign it or file it.
Find a family lawyer in your state →
The main thing
Not blank forms. Complete documents, with the handful of decisions that are genuinely yours marked for you to make — and the language written to hold up when the other side reads it back to you two years from now.
Each one is built around a single thing a father is trying to protect, and that is also how they are organized. Not by state, not by schedule type, but by the thing that actually keeps you up, because that is how you know which one is yours.
Whatever your state calls that document — a parenting plan, a possession order, an allocation judgment, or simply the final judgment — this is the one.
Every plan downloads with
From $149that buys one plan, annotated clause by clause. The larger packages combine up to three into one document.
Hover any plan to read real clause language from it
Tier 4 · Change It · $249
Most cases are not about one thing. At Change It you pick any three of the twenty plans above — one lead concept, and two more built around it — and they are composed into a single parenting plan. Not three documents you have to reconcile yourself. One.
The primary plan governs. It sets the schedule, the holidays, the exchanges and the decision rule, and wherever two concepts would say different things, the primary is the one that wins. The second and third fold in the protections your case also turns on — the relocation language, the enforcement terms, the financial clauses — written to sit inside the primary rather than argue with it.
Primary plan plus second plan plus third plan equals your combined plan.
Tier 3 · First Draft · $149 · and in every tier above it
Every plan above ships with two things beside it. A negotiation guide — which clauses to hold, which to trade, and what to say when the other side objects to each one. And a one-page brief for your mediator, so the session starts from your document instead of a blank page. Twenty plans, twenty guides. The one below is the guide for Equal Time.
Specimen — Plan 01, Equal Time
Hold these
Trade these
When they object
“The children need one home base.”
The guide does not tell you to argue with that. It tells you to agree with it and then answer it with the document: one named school address, one set of house rules written into both homes, one calendar both parents work from. Every piece of what she just asked for — without moving a single overnight.
Each guide carries the four objections that plan actually draws, and the answer to each one written out in full.
The other half — the mediator’s page
A mediator gets your case ninety seconds before the session starts. The brief is built for those ninety seconds: the schedule as a grid he can read at a glance, the three terms you will not move, and the three you will. He walks in knowing the shape of the deal. Most sessions start from a blank page and the loudest person in the room.
A guide and a brief for every plan you own — from First Draft upward.
See the packages →Two things fathers get told that are wrong often enough to be worth answering properly.
For the father who rebuilt
Most divorced fathers remarry — and the order you signed before your wife existed is the one now governing your house. It decides whether she can sit in the stands, whether her name ends up on a disclosure form, and whether every schedule change arrives in your kitchen as a surprise. None of that is a legal problem. All of it is a drafting problem, and it has answers.
My personal example
Define “family” in the plan to include your wife and her family by name, and bar either parent from diminishing, disparaging, marginalizing, or seeking to exclude them. Nearly every order is silent here — and silence is exactly where it starts.
Attendance language that names spouses, partners, relatives and close friends as welcome at games, recitals and school programs, so nobody relitigates it at the gate in front of your daughter.
Disclosure and caregiver-notice clauses drawn to reach the people actually caring for your children — not your wife, not her family, not everyone who happens to live in your home. No surveilling, photographing, or contacting your household.
Fixed notice windows. Weekends you designate. Deemed approval when she doesn't respond. Reimbursement tied to the insurance-reconciled balance, not a billed charge. A plan your wife can plan around stops costing you at home.
The term “family,” as used in this Parenting Plan and as understood by the children, includes the children’s stepmother and her family. Each parent shall respect the children’s right to regard the stepmother and her family as members of their family, and neither parent shall diminish, disparage, marginalize, or seek to exclude the stepmother or her family from the children’s family life.
Closes: the slow project of making a father’s new family into strangers in his children’s eyes.
Ships in Plan 09. It is the clause this whole section is built around.
Chris’s favorite sample
Plan 09 · Blended FamilyShips with a short worksheet you and your wife complete together, before you negotiate — what you each need protected, what you're each willing to trade — so the terms you carry into mediation are terms your household already agreed on. And one line holds throughout: no blended-family clause asks a child to choose. If a provision isn’t defensible as what is in the best interest for the children, it doesn’t ship.
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The same clause is enforceable in one state and dead on arrival in the next. Presumptions, thresholds, required provisions and the overnight count that changes the number all move at the state line — so before you settle on a plan, find out what yours actually does. Look up your state →
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One name, everywhere.
Same handle on every platform, so you never have to guess which account is the real one. What gets posted is the same thing this site is: what the law actually says, and what it is worth in nights.